So, I am still under the “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff therapy” — or so I’ve started calling it. But, I wasn’t able to move much further with the book. At the moment, I had just read the tenth chapter. I would have to blame that on the fact that I gotten hold of a PS3 game that I have been playing to release stress and anxiety. The game is called Rune Factory: Tides of Destiny. I have also been reading other books (recently finished the second book of the Chronicles of Nick and am currently reading The Gathering. After that, I’m reading The Fire — the last book in the Witch & Wizard Trilogy). So, you can see why I haven’t moved that much in Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.
Anyways, I’m going to keep posting the chapters from that book that I feel people should know about or remember. The tenth chapter is one such chapter.
This chapter, entitled, Learn to Live in the Present Moment sort of follows up on what I posted previously (which is this post). Below is what the book says:
To a large degree, the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live in the present moment. Irrespective of what happened yesterday or last year, and what may or may not happen tomorrow, the present moment is where you are — always!
Without question, many of us have mastered the neurotic art of spending much of our lives worrying about a variety of thing — all at once. We allow past problems and future concerns to dominate our present moments, so much so that we end up anxious, frustrated, depressed, and hopeless. On the flip side, we also postpone our gratification, our stated priorities, and our happiness, often convincing ourselves that “someday” will be better than today. Unfortunately, the same mental dynamics that tell us to look toward the future will only repeat themselves so that “someday” never actually arrives. John Lennon once said, “Life is what’s happening while we’re busy making other plans.” When we’re busy making “other plans”, our children are busy growing up, the people we love are moving away and dying, our bodies are getting out of shape, and our dreams are slipping away. In short, we miss out on life.
Many people live as if life were a dress rehearsal for some later date. It isn’t. In fact, no one has a guarantee that he or she will be here tomorrow. Now is the only time we have, and the only time that we have any control over. When our attention is in the present moment, we push fear from our minds. Fear is the concern over events that might happen in the future — we won’t have enough money, our children will get into trouble, we will get old and die, whatever.
To combat fear, the best strategy is to learn to bring your attention back to the present. Mark Twain said, “I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” I don’t think I can say it any better. Practice keeping your attention on the here and now. Your efforts will pay great dividends.
I know a lot of people who like to worry about every single thing. They worry so much that they want to control it. Sometimes, I even act that way–well, not the controlling part, just the worrying thing. So, I am trying to change that. Thank God I don’t control other people’s lives like some people I know and some people some people tell me about when they’re ranting.
I am also not one of the people who like to put their dreams on hold. Everyone who knows me personally — my friends and my family — would know that I am working really, really hard in order to make my dreams a reality. They know what my dreams are and are supportive of me. Of course, there are those people who don’t understand but, screw what other people say!
I don’t want to simply exist and breeze through my life. I want to live it. And I want to live it the way I want to. The way that I was taught how to live it — without trampling on anyone or making any one feel inferior. I’m living my life for my family, myself, and most of all for the glory of God.