So, it’ s been two days since I last posted anything from the “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” handbook-slash-book. I am still reading it, though on what I call “DStSS therapy”. But, I am going in a much slower pace than when I do reading fiction books–which, of the moment, would have to be James Patterson’s The Fire, the third and final book in the Witch & Wizard trilogy.
Anyways, I’m on the sixteenth chapter in DStSS and this chapter’s title is the same as this article’s title, which is (if you haven’t read and wouldn’t bother to scroll up) Ask Yourself the Question, “Will This Matter a Year From Now?”. It’s a sort of mentality, or practice, that I try to do but sometimes I forgot to follow through. And this is what Richard Carlson has to say about it:
Almost every day I play a game with myself that I call “time warp”. I made it up in response to my consistent, erroneous belief that what I was all worked up about was really important.
To play “time warp”, all you have to do is imagine that whatever circumstance you are dealing with isn’t happening right now but a year from now. Then simply ask yourself, “Is this situation really as important as I’m making it out to be?” Once in a great while it may be–but a vast majority of the time, it simply isn’t.
Whether it be an argument with your spouse, child, or boss, a mistake, a lost opportunity, a lost wallet, a work-related rejection, or a sprained ankle, chances are, a year from now you aren’t going to care. It will be one more irrelevant detail in your life. While this simple game won’t solve all your problems, it can give you an enormous amount of needed perspective. I find myself laughing at the things that I used to take far too seriously. Now, rather than using up my energy feeling angry and overwhelmed, I can use it instead on spending time with my wife and children or engaging in creative thinking.