Surrender to the Fact that Life Isn’t Fair

You would have thought that I would have finished reading the “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” book and had finished undergoing what I had called “DStSS Therapy”.  But, that isn’t the case.  I’ve been reading a lot of other books, writing two books and a fan fiction myself, as well as all the other projects and having “Family Time” that I hadn’t been able to read a page (or two) from the said book written by Richard Carlson.

So, to catch up on it, I read a couple of chapters before stopping at chapter 17.  The passage below was what was written as the seventeenth chapter in the book and is entitled: Surrender to the Fact that Life Isn’t Fair.

A friend of mine, in response to a conversation we were having about the injustice of life, asked me the question, “Who said life was going to be fair, or that it was even meant to be fair?”  Her question was a good one.  It reminded me of something I was taught as a youngster: Life isn’t fair.  It’s a bummer, but it’s absolutely true.  Ironically, recognizing the sobering fact can be a very liberating insight.

One of the mistakes many of us make is that we feel sorry for ourselves, or for others, thinking that life should be fair, or that someday it will be.  It’s not and it won’t.  When we make this mistake we tend to spend a lot of time wallowing and/or complaining about what’s wrong with life.  We commiserate with others, discussing the injustice of life.  “It’s not fair,” we complain, not realizing that, perhaps, it was never intended to be.

One of the nice things about surrendering to the fact that life isn’t fair is that it keeps us from feeling sorry for ourselves by encouraging us to do the very best we can with what we have.  We know it’s not “life’s job” to make everything perfect, it’s our own challenge.  Surrendering to this fact also keeps us from feeling sorry for others because we are reminded that everyone is dealt a different hand, and everyone has unique strengths and challenges.  This insight has helped me to deal with the problems of raising two children, the difficult decisions I’ve had to make about who to help and who I can’t help, as well as with my own personal struggles during those times that I have felt victimized or unfairly treated.  It almost always wakes me up to reality and puts me back on track.

The fact that life isn’t fair doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do everything in our power to improve our own lives or the world as a whole.  To the contrary, it suggests that we should.  When we don’t recognize or admit that life isn’t fair, we tend to feel pity for others and for ourselves.  Pity, of course, is a self-defeating emotion that does nothing for anyone, except to make everyone feel worse than they already do.  When we do recognize that life isn’t fair, however, we feel compassion for others and for ourselves.  And compassion is a heartfelt emotion that delivers loving-kindness to everyone it touches.  The next time you find yourself thinking about the injustices of the world, try reminding yourself of this very basic fact.  You may be surprised that it can nudge you out of self-pity and into helpful action.

 

There is nothing more that I enjoy doing than reading books and writing. I'm kind of a nerd like that, XD. I have been writing for 7 years and am the author of the YA novel "Winged: The Awakening" and "Winged: The Unraveling". Also, a YouTuber dealing with video games and gaming.

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