I’m still feeling that ‘writer’s rush’ having just published the final chapter of Daniel X: Game Over–a fan fiction that I had been working for for almost a year (give or take a month or two). Of course, I won’t forget my daily Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff update. So, here it is.
I didn’t get far in the book, from the previous chapter I had posted, I mean. This next chapter that I will share just so happens to be the next chapter from Richard Carlson’s book. It is chapter forty-four: Understand Separate Realities, and it follows up on what was stated on the previous chapter.
Here is what he has to say in that chapter:
While we’re on the subject of being interested in the way other people do things, let’s take a moment to discuss separate realities.
If you have traveled to foreign countries or seen depictions of them in movies, you are aware of vast differences among cultures. The principle of separate realities says that the differences among individuals is every bit as vast. Just as we wouldn’t expect people of different cultures to see or do things as we would (in fact, we’d be disappointed if we did), this principle tells us that the individual differences in our ways of seeing the world prohibit this as well. It’s not a matter of merely tolerating differences but truly understanding and honoring the fact that it literally can’t be any other way.
I have seen an understanding of this principle change lives. It can virtually eliminate quarrels. When we expect to see things differently, when we take it as a given that others will do things differently and react differently to the same stimuli, the compassion we have for ourselves and for others rises dramatically. The moment we expect otherwise, the potential for conflict exists.
I encourage you to consider deeply and respect the fact that we are all very different. When you do, the love you feel for others as well as the appreciation you have for your own uniqueness will increase.