Before I post more articles regarding Christmas, I’m going to finish sharing with you some of the remaining pages from the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff book. One of those chapters is the ninety-fourth chapter entitled: Keep Asking Yourself, “What’s Really Important?”.
This, for me, is one of those chapter that I can relate to. I have been doing this ever since I can remember, asking myself what matters most to me. For me it is my family and my dream and, of course, God. I would willingly put everything on hold for my family and would go to great lengths to fulfill my dream. I have also begun to make a conscious effort to remind myself that “I am Second”.
A while back, my mom had given me a what-if scenario. She asked me to choose between my dream and something else. Of course, I told her that I would pursue my dreams as I have been given the opportunity to do so. I told her that people are given a chance to live their dreams and that sometimes they choose not to because they have that notion of staying in the “Okay-Zone”, that notion of “Okay na ‘to“. For me, I don’t have that “Okay na ‘to” option. I have, after all, looked forward to the day when my dream becomes a reality and I have been working hard for it. So, why then would I give it up and choose to remain dormant?
The same is true when given a choice between my family and something else. It is an easy decision to make as I would drop everything and go to my family’s aid without a doubt and without a moment’s hesitation. After all, the people in your family are people whom you can truly count on and whom you can be assured–as I am–would always have your back.
Anyways, this is what Richard Carlson has to say about this particular chapter:
It’s easy to get lost and overwhelmed in the chaos, responsibilities, and goals of life. Once overwhelmed, it’s tempting to forget about and postpone that which is most near and dear to your heart. I’ve found that it’s helpful to keep asking myself, “What’s really important?”
As part of my early morning routine, I take a few seconds to ask myself this question. Reminding myself of what’s really important helps me keep my priorities straight. It reminds me that, despite my multitude of responsibilities, I have a choice of what is most important in my life and where I put my greatest amount of energy–being available for my wife and children, writing, practicing my inner work, and so forth.
Despite the appearance of being overly simplistic, I have found this strategy to be immensely helpful in keeping me on track. When I take a few moments to remind myself of what’s really important, I find that I’m more present-moment oriented, in less of a hurry, and that being right loses its appeal. Conversely, when I forget to remind myself of what’s really important, I find that I can quickly lose sight of my priorities and, once again get lost in my own busyness. I’ll rush out the door, work late, lose my patience, skip my exercise, and do other things that are in conflict with the goals of my life.
If you regularly take a minute to check in with yourself, to ask yourself, “What’s really important?” you may find that some of the choices you are making are in conflict with your own stated goals. This strategy can help you align your actions with your goals and encourage you to make more conscious, loving decisions.